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A couple  of weeks ago I was having a conversation on line with someone, and this caused me to want to add something to my blog that I can do.  It will be more opinion oriented, and shorter.  In short, its going to be a mini blog, blogs that are not my weekly topic (which I promise to get back to just having trouble doing research to where I feel comfortable posting the weekly blog).

The point of these new blogs is to invite more discussion, of course I want anyone to comment and ask me things anytime, but this is more to pose a question or a point specifically designed to get feedback.  Its also a bit more recent, bit more spontaneous, and thus a bit more relevant to what is going on.

Now that I have gotten that out of the way, to the blog:

Recently, I got a message from someones boy friend on Facebook.  They said that I was creeping out their girl friend, and that I should not talk to her anymore, and that she was too nice to complain at me herself.  So this got me thinking, spewing actually.

What I want to take away from this situation is a lesson on honesty.

To me, its better to be honest, and being honest is the nice thing to do, to confront someone and explain  you have a problem with them, so that I can know what the heck is going on.  So I can know how to respond, without that I am confused as to what I did, and I do not know how to react, how to  grow, or even what I can do about the situation.  I just do not know what to do.

Now this is not the first time that this has happened to me, I do have experience on what I am talking about.  On every single instance where someone has not been honest with me, or has been evasive and has not told me that I was making a mistake when I was relating to them….it has lead to a disaster.  And has left me feeling wounded, hurt, and confused.

But when people have told me the truth, I have been able to salvage a friendship from it, to know how to react and thus we were able to salvage a friendship that was beneficial to the both of us.  In fact it was one of the best  friendships I have ever had with a person in my life.

All I am asking for is a little honesty from people, to tell me when I have done wrong in your eyes, and we can go on working something out from there.  Yes, I might be a little hurt and confused by your words, but in the end I know from my personal experience that I am a lot less so then if you did not tell me anything at all, that if you did not come to me.

This relates to every walk of life: All I ask for is a little honesty.

From our Politicians: be honest with your people and constituents, tell them the truth and be open with them so that we can have an honest debate.

Give out all the facts, appropriate numbers, and do not pass it in the middle of the night.  Believe me when I tell you, that a lot of people do not like it when you pass things that we cannot have the chance to digest.  Pass it in the light, and give it to the American people to judge. And have it be something you would be willing to sign up for if you had to do it yourself, it is very suspicious that you are not willing to do something that you are forcing on us.

Bosses: Always be honest with your potential employees, give them the information they need straight up on whether they have been hired or not.  Straight up front, do not leave people hanging in the wind.

wow…uh…that was not so mini after all 😛

I will do a better job of that, and will get on with my next blog entry as soon as I have appropriate info.

What you all think?



  1. More people need to deal openly with each other, but in this poltically correct world, we are all expect to “sense” when someone else is uncomfortable. It is somehow wrong to say “this offends me, upsets me, etc… I am a New England Yankee born and bred and we are known for being blunt and to the point. This has gotten me in much trouble over the years, others tend to think I am simply “being mean”. In the 1990’s I had a friend who chastized me for calling my mailman a “mailman” and she said “the correct term is mailperson”. My response was a classic for me… “my mailMAN is 6’4 and bearded, I think he earned the title “Man” don’t you?” she then asked if I wanted to offend someone by accident… my response is also a classic by my standards.. “if I offend someone by accident it’s a slow day.” what does this mean? If you are a jerk I will tell you so and expect the same level of honesty in return. Great post!

  2. I concur… and women were created to be equal in dignity yet very different from each other in the roles they play in human life….these idiots don’t know or have forgotten that “man” is also used to refer to the human race as a whole

    as a devout and honorable Roman Catholic MAN…..I live by a simple creed found in Scripture… starts out “wives be submissive to your husbands”….the more idiotic members of my gender take that part out of context to justify being a control freak….which is not what this passage does at all….because the passage continues on….it finishes off with “husbands love your wives as Christ loves His Church”… Catholic tradition therefore every marriage between a man and a woman is meant to be a sense perceptible sign of the union Christ has with the Church founded by His Grace

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